i had a relationship with my uncle since i was a boy i keep it a secret to my parents do i have to tell them?
I just want to open my story here i dont want to tell my parents and my sisters about this im 22 yrs old now and im working as a nurse im a half filipino half italian my mom is a filipina and my dad is italian since i was a kid my parents always travel in the phil.im their 1st and only son im 8 yrs. old that time and most of time while my parents are busy for their business in the phil. they have a hard time taking care about me so they let my uncle take care and manage the things i need for school etc. my uncle is a married man and has a 7 mons. old baby his very close to my family. While my parents are away i develop separation anxiety for the 1st 3 mons.i always cry but im happy that my uncle and his wife are very loving and caring about me they treated me as their own child my uncle work during night time and his wife works day time so my uncle is the one who really care about me he send me to school and buy the things that i want i still remember that i feel more closer to him than my dad he always hug me and tell jokes about how cute and a good kid i was we even sleep together and sometimes if i did something wrong i tell him the truth and say sorry and hug him that time i develop love to him and attraction i know since i was a kid i always smile and feel close to the person i like one day while my uncle is taking a shower he call me and said pls take my bath towel in my room and give it to me so i did and its the 1st time i seen him naked i just stand in front of him and look curious and smile at him he look at me in the eye and said u ok? then he grab me and ask me to give him oral i feel nervous but also happy to do it for him that time i did it and we develop secret relationship sometimes i feel bad about it but i just feel its the only way to make him happy he always said to me dont tell anybody about this if you love your uncle. we had a great relationship for almost 5 yrs until my parents came back here in U.S. and stay for a long time with me.my uncle and i still love each other until he and his wife moved to italy. i still love my uncle till now and i already went to italy for vacation many times visit them and start dating other men there in italy and also last year i went to phil. with my mom and my younger sisters i try to date guys i meet there and they are cool. my family always ask about why i dont have a gf and sometimes they suspect im gay but actually its true i just cant open it to them right now im very secretive to my family and act normal to them only to my friends or guys they know about me. my experience in life i dont regret anything im just happy for it and look back the time and laugh about it my self i feel like im a whore for all the things i experience about men LOL. im sure if those things didnt happened to me probably im a straight guy right now. thanx for reading my story ..........xx sam
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1 :
cool story, bro!
2 :
wt fuck i hear this hsit happens wow speachless
3 :
Well that seems pretty messed up... but at this point you are an adult and you don't seem to care... Personally since you are now an adult I say do whatever you want, but this seems like its gonna blow up in your face eventually and mess up things with your family. Also like I said the situation is kind of messed up and you should not only have not been involved with your uncle when you were a minor but relations like that with someone in your family? I don't think its right but its really your choice as far as im concerned.
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thats is the most disturbing thing ive ever read.
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Your uncle molested you and is a sexual predator. He needs to be in jail. tell everyone your a victim of his abuse.
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I think you should tel your parents that you are gay, but don't tell them about your uncle.
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Sounds like you are comfortable with your situation. Very inappropriate thing on your Uncle's part. Incest and exploiting a youth sexually can really confuse someone in today's society. You should tell your family probably. If you think that is the reason you are gay, maybe you should try dating girls. It may be that you were already gay. Do you remember as a kid. It sounds a bit like ancient Rome or Greece. I hope you are able to have a healthy adult relatinship afer all of this.
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im not being funny buy that is classed as him being a pedophile! i think you should tell your parents! they need to stop him in case he does the same to his child! This is classed as sexual abuse! Please tell your parents, even if you don't want too! think of your cousin!
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yes boy because the earlier the better like to me i am agirl of 21 and i am ajournalist ,i would like you to be my friend for more advise
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You dont HAVE to tell them, but if you feel guilty and its bothering you a whole lot than go ahead.
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You don't need to tell your parents but you do need to tell the authorities. Period point blank he raped you and molested you and he was WRONG!!! It's not your fault you feel love towards this man because the abuse started when you were a child and now you have a warped sense of what is right and what love is. He is a disgusting "person" and should go to jail for what he did to you. Whether you think what he did to you is ok or not he needs to be reported. Just to ask you a question, how would you feel if in a few years he starts forcing oral on his child? Would you think that's normal? I hope your answer is no! I would suggest some counseling.
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What will you do if you are tempted to pass this on to another child? Will you do it?Get some kind of counseling to help prevent that at least.
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