My boyfriend wants me to marry him, but I'm not ready!?
He and I have known each other for a very short period of time, and he gave me a promise ring before I left to go to Germany. I'm going to be here for the next two years, probably Turkey for 15 months, and then settling in Italy. He says now that we're engaged, and he's looking for diamond engagement rings, but I've told him that I'm not ready. I'm 19, and I want to get my degree in nursing and in art before anything drastic happens in my life. He's never met my parents, and he keeps thinking that I really don't want to get married because I want to wait. This makes no sense to me. I mean, shouldn't he want to wait? I don't want to have to split my attention between my future children and school, and I don't want to be financially unstable, so that's why I want to get education out of the way. I also am not ready for such a big commetment. He says that it's hard to trust me because everytime I raise the subject it's "one thing after another." Help!!
Marriage & Divorce - 46 Answers
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If you're not ready, DON'T DO IT
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Your 19 tell him to relax!
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tell him exactly what you wrote. He can't read your mind so you just need to talk to him an explain why you want to wait. Good luck!
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dont rush anything
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Then don't get married...wow that wasn't hard to figure out.
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Tell him to fuck off
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This sounds like a failure, take your time, you are very young.
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talk to him honestly about all your feelings,he should appreciate it.
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Make sure you tell him and why. If he understand you then he love you and if he don't it is better for you to know now than then. Good luck.
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well if he really loves u then he will wait till ur ready maybe her just thinks he is going to lose u becasue u are going to germany etc
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he sounds odd...and it sounds like he is pressuring you for no reason...go with your gut...i say, you make him wait...your schooling is more important right now
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You need to be BLUNT with him. Sometimes a guy doesnt understand, "Im not ready" whereas he might understand, I DO NOT WANT TO GET MARRIED RIGHT NOW! Just watch your words and make your point. Dont yell, dont get mad, just clarify for him that you are NOT going to get married. If he goes out and actually buys a ring for you, he is going to be devastated, so I suggest doing this as soon as possible.
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Your right. Tell him to chill out. You might feel different in 3 months, 1 year, or 5 years but if you are not ready now than just say 'no'.
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Send him a copy of your question. This guy sounds very insecure. Tell him that he doesn't get to decide that you are engaged; that you haven't accepted his proposal of marriage. A promise ring is not the real deal. You, on the other hand, sound like you are about to outgrow this guy. Tell him goodbye.
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tell him the promise ring is enough for now. That after you get your education and stuff out of the way, and if your still going strong, then you might be ready to take the next step and get engaged. Don't let ANYONE pressure you. If he truly loves you, he'll want what's best for you and he'll respect your wishes. He may want to tie you down because he has nothing else going on in his life. Tell him to focus on himself.
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Explain to him why you dont want to marry yet. Assure him of your love and faithfulness. If he truly loves you, he shoudl wait
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Get out pen and paper and write the following. I do not want to marry you. Please do not contact me ever again. You are a stalker and probably unstable. Please seek professional help.
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Don't get married, unless you are 100% sure of that is what you want. If you get married on a whim, or when you're not sure, then only disaster can result.
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Stick to your guns! DO NOT let him pressure you into doing something you know you are not ready for! It may be difficult, but it will be much harder being married when you're not ready.
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Well you r 19 plz take your time you have the rest of your life to settle down take it from me i was 20 when i got married never got to go college or anything take your time
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Send him back his promise ring and get out of this Toxic insecure persons life while you can. Not sharing a common future plan is not sharing a common future life. Just get out now , you ll meet someone new.
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You are way too young to marry, especially if you are not ready. As you travel the world your tastes will change. You may or may not wish to be with this person for the rest of your life after these experiences. If you are both truly in love he will wait and so will you. If not be kind and break it off now and give back the promise ring. Be nice and explain you are not yet ready. You can choose to be friends but I doubt he will accept that if he wants to marry. A clean break is much kinder.
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Your boyfriend sounds like a controlling whackjob. If you aren't ready to get married, then don't get married. End of story. And yes, you should finish whatever degrees that you want to get first before you decide on anything else. First and foremost, it is YOUR life.
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Just go for another one!
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Have you told him that you want to have your schooling out of the way before getting married and starting a family? Tell him again and if he can't understand that it might be time to part ways because that is not respecting you or your wishes for the future.
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19 are you ensane???? i was when i got married at 20!!! don't do it, wait until 30 at least, your 20's should be fun and not tied down with kids and hubby.
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Tell your boyfriend that you want to wait after college to get married. Unless you keep changing the subject when he brings it up. Don't let him think different than what he thinks now or else he will think something really bad.
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WHAT? He's trying to pressure you into marriage. I can keep my cool about some pretty fucked up things, but that's the fast track to joining the 50-some percent of Americans that end up getting divorced. Be very assertive, and tell him you're not comfortable with how he's pressuring you when he tries to do it again. Trust me, giving in will make it easier now, but so much harder in the future, and you're VERY young- I'm 18, and have enough friends my age or younger who have kids. No fun. Enjoy your youth, you only get it once.
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The guy sounds pushy and incapable of accepting rejection. Once you go abroad, you can forget about him. Two years over there, focusing on your studies, preparing for your future, sounds like you've got your head on straight. Give him back his ring. Tell him there isn't nor ever was an engagement, and that he is just going to have to accept it.
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It sounds like he is very insecure and there isn't much you can do about it. If you are not ready then tell him in no uncertain terms that you are not ready. Let him know that once you are in your last year of nursing that you would like him to "surprise" you with an engagement ring, but that you will say no anytime before then...and then stick to it. He will either have to deal with it or move on. You seem to have your head on straight...keep it that way! As a mom of three boys who is just finishing my BA now I have to say that I wish I would have done it before the kids. I still have a year and a half of grad school left!
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I'm 23. I got married at 20 and divorced at 21. I dated for 5 years before getting married. I would not recommend getting married that young. Finish your college. If he's wanting to marry you that bad, he'll wait and if not, then he's probably desperate. College can take you a few years unmarried or many years married, I would say take a few years and get it done and out of the way so you can focus more on your career and family later.
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You're far too young and sensible for marriage and if he's too immature to understand this, I strongly suggest you end things with him. He sounds far too intense and clingy, which will not be pleasant to live with. Send him on his way and live your dream. Good luck.
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GIRL DONT GIVE IN, IF THAT IS HOW YOU FEEL THEN THATS HOW YOU FEEL, THIS IS YOUR LIFE AND YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE THAT HAS TO LIVE WITH THE DECISIONS THAT YOU MAKE. FOLLOW YOUR HEART AND YOUR MIND. ITS GREAT THAT YOU BELIEVE THAT WAY. I WAS THE RETARD THAT RAN OFF AND GOT MARRIED, AND THOU I LEARNED ALOT. I KINDA WISHED I WOULDNT HAVE.
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"...he keeps thinking that I really don't want to get married because I want to wait." Did you tell him that or does he just think that? Do not do anything you are not prepared for especially marriage. I know I don't have to tell you that but I am anyway. You will ruin both of your lives if the time is not right. You are 19. How old is he? If he is as young as you then he needs to do a bit more living to do (as do you) before he can figure out what he really wants in life. If he's not willing to wait then he needs to move on and get over you. Your experiences traveling alone will probably reinforce the sentiment that you don't want to settle down. He should try the same.
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If you are not ready, you need to tell him to stop pressuring you. You are only 19. Don't do it just because that's what he wants, you will regret it. Why is he in such a big hurry anyway? I also believe that if this were the right guy, you wouldn't be worried about whether your degree or your marriage came first and if he cares enough about you, he will consider your feelings. Maybe he needs to move on, you are obviously at different points in your lives. Also, just because you get married while you are in school, doesn't mean that you have to have children right away, you can still wait on that. I would just give it a lot of thought. Is the possibility of losing this guy or finishing your education first more important to you? That's the ultimate question!
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YOU CANT MARRY HIM. TELL HIM WHAT UP. IF YOU MARRY HIM YOU WILL BE UNHAPPY AND MAD ALL THE TIME. TELL HIM AGAIN I WANT TO BE MARRIED SOON. IF HE CANT WAIT ON YOU THEN HES NO THE ONE FOR.
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It seems to me that you are the one that is ready to get married, not him. You know what you want and when. You have a plan, and you know what is needed to be married. On the other hand, he seems to be just in a hurry and acting a little immature. I can’t really be sure, but for the little things you wrote, it makes me think this way. Have a nice talk with him, and don’t say much, just ask him what are his plans, what is it that he wants to do after marrying you. Listen to his answers, and you will know if he is prepared or if he is just going crazy and trying to marry you in a hurry. If he has actually a plan, and understand what is involved when you get married and how you guys would be a new family and that you guys would have to take care of that family, then he might be ready, so you two just need to work it out, and figure out when it would be better to do this step. But if is as I suspect and he is not ready, then it is gonna be hard for you because you must explain what is going on and how much he needs to mature before he can really think of getting married. Chances are he is going to be mad and if he doesn’t grow up, he might even think of leaving you. But this is a risk you have to take anyways, and just do your best trying to letting him see reality. Hopefully he will understand and will calm down and start planning for something real. Good luck.
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You need to take care of things YOU feel are important right now. If you're not ready and want get things "out of the way", then you need to do just that. I GUARANTEE, if you cave to the pressure you will second guess and regret for the rest of your life. Do what you need to do, then, when you have accomplished that, if marrying him is still an open option, address it then. And he obviously is not on the same track. If he does not want to wait, then maybe his desire to "married" is greater than his desire to be with you. If he is just looking to be married, and you're not ready, maybe he is not for you (or at least not for now). Just something to think about. But most of all, don't cave if you're not ready. Good Luck!!
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Just sit him down and explain everything, let him know that pushing you is not the answer to the problem. When you get married you should be happy and willing. It is good that you want to establish yourself in a career before marriage. Tell him tha you want to make sure things are set and ok before going down that road. Especially seeing as children and travel take a lot of money. If he continues to push you have to really think about how life with this kind of person may be like, such as how will he be if I do not want kids right away, or if you want to live one place and he wants to be somewhere different. If he cannot take your feelings into consideration he is not totally caring about you. tell him that if he loaves you, then he can wait for you. People stay together long times without having to make it legal. And that is all it is. Tell him that you can make a promise to him and a commitment without the legality of it. My aunt and uncle have been together for 27 years and they are not married, they feel that when you marry and something goes wrong you immediately run out and get a divorce and that is expensive and stupid. Do what you feel is right and not what he thinks you should do. Good Luck : )
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I think you should tell him that you love him but you're not ready 2 settle down yet and you want 2 achieve other goals in your life right now. And If he doesn't understand and wait till u are ready. Well he's not the 1 for U. Cuz if he loved u he would wait 4 u. P.S Don't rush in 2 anything if ur not ready!! I hope this is helpful 2 U.
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then get rid of him if he cant respect what you want
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Stick to your plans. You have a say in what happens in your life, and your feeling is that you want to wait. Don't let anyone pressure you into something that doesn't feel quite right. He sounds desperate, and it's not a good thing. Take your time, and things will sort themselves out; if he decides to leave you because you have your own head on your shoulders, then I'd say good riddance. You have plenty of time to pursue your dreams, don't let anyone cheat you out of any of them.
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You don't have to make excuses, "I'm not ready to talk about marriage" should suffice. If it doesn't, he could be too controlling, and you don't need THAT for sure. Don't get married just because you feel pressured to do so. Just because he's ready, doesn't mean you should be. This may not be the guy for you. If he's not willing to give you your space, then you may just need to move on. It sounds like you have a lot going on in your life anyway.
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Why does getting married automatically equal children?? If you're having sex now, you can still have a baby and be forced with the predicament where you have divide your attention between school and a family. So you putting not being ready for children as your reason to not want to get married right now, is bull. I say its bull because none of the fears you have about getting married, would stop you from fulfilling your goals. You want to prioritize and your career goals rank higher on the list than your relationship and PREFER to complete school before getting married. There is nothing wrong with that. By the way, how can he tell you that you're engaged? That's not something you're informed of. It's mutually decided and then plans start being made. A promise ring is not an engagement ring. Also, his time table doesn't have to yours. It should not suprise you that you two are two different places regarding your relationship. I can understand you not wanting the commitment of a relationship, with you wanting to study abroad. I know you probably love your boyfriend but but if he doesn't support your goals, you're wasting your time with him. Not to mention, I assume you guys are around the same age, has he mentioned any kind of goals that he wants to pursue? Does he have a job? If not, you don't want to marry him anyway. He'll just slow you down.
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show him a copy of your e- mail and ask him to understand.
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I think you are right on target. Don't marry him. Your whole life is in front of you. Bet he is not educated himself. My husband and I are both professionals. Even with good jobs you may struggle to educate your children Ours are grown, both have a good education. There were times we struggled to be sure they had what we felt they needed. I can't imagine what uneducated people even talk about in their older years. or how they support a family in these times.
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If you are not ready to get married don't do it, Sit him down and explain to him that you love and you want to be with him but you are not ready "YET" for that big step.. He is going to be hurt for awhile but then he will calm down.. Also let him know that when you are ready you will let him know. Good Luck
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Friday, March 14, 2008
since i'm an international student, how can i get references for the university enrollment in London
since i'm an international student, how can i get references for the university enrollment in London?
i'm italian and i have been living in London for some months, i haven't been working here yet, and i came in London only to apply for an undergraduate degree in nursing at king's college. as i'm not british and i've never worked here, who can i get a reference from? i worked in a hospital in italy for 1 and a half year, as nurse's aide, i could get references from a doctor who know me very well, but she is italian and not able to write in a good english. does anyone know if it's necessary to get references only from someone living in UK? may i get a reference from that doctor, asking for a traslation of an interpreter? how can i do it? please if someone knows, let me know. i really need to know it soon. thank you!!
Higher Education (University +) - 2 Answers
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Get the reference from the doctor. There's no need for your references to be from the UK. Italy is completely acceptable. Have her write it in Italian. At the same time, contact the school, and ask if there is any specific process they need you to follow in terms of the translation.
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Get your reference from the Italian doctor. You may be required to pay to have it officially translated, but it's worth asking - the person who will be reading the reference might speak Italian anyway.
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i'm italian and i have been living in London for some months, i haven't been working here yet, and i came in London only to apply for an undergraduate degree in nursing at king's college. as i'm not british and i've never worked here, who can i get a reference from? i worked in a hospital in italy for 1 and a half year, as nurse's aide, i could get references from a doctor who know me very well, but she is italian and not able to write in a good english. does anyone know if it's necessary to get references only from someone living in UK? may i get a reference from that doctor, asking for a traslation of an interpreter? how can i do it? please if someone knows, let me know. i really need to know it soon. thank you!!
Higher Education (University +) - 2 Answers
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Get the reference from the doctor. There's no need for your references to be from the UK. Italy is completely acceptable. Have her write it in Italian. At the same time, contact the school, and ask if there is any specific process they need you to follow in terms of the translation.
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Get your reference from the Italian doctor. You may be required to pay to have it officially translated, but it's worth asking - the person who will be reading the reference might speak Italian anyway.
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Friday, March 7, 2008
Why am I having such a difficult time choosing a college major
Why am I having such a difficult time choosing a college major?
I graduated from high school in 2007 & was set on being a Pharmacist. My grades weren't great & my advisor told me I have no chance of being a Pharmacist so I might as well change my major. I asked her if I should try and become P.A. (Physician's Assistant), Physical Therapist, etc (& basically every thing I told her.....she shot me down and said I basically have no chance of getting a degree in the medical field. At a young age I had my heart set on having a career in the medical field because I know its what my parents wanted. I come from a Indian family and my parents are quite understanding..but they always insinuated & kind of expected me to become a doctor, pharmacist, etc. Back then it didn't bother me, because I wanted to do whatever I could to make them proud of me. I have an older brother and sister who majored in Finance, Management & Marketing, and Business..& since my parents have worked in the medical field their entire lives I always felt like they expected me to follow in their footsteps and do more than they did since my brother and sister chose their own majors. The college advisor told me I have no chance getting a degree in the medical field I was so lost & confused and did not know what to do. I cried for weeks, because I was so scared of not knowing what I was going to do with my life, and on top of that I didn't want to disappoint my parents. The classes I had been taking were pre-requisites for Pharmacy so I changed my mind and decided to go towards Nursing instead despite what the advisor told me. Right now I've applied for two R.N. programs and am in the process of applying to some BSN programs. At this point I really am so frustrated and confused. My plan was always to graduate and get my degree and travel. I am so very much interested in other cultures which is why I want to travel everywhere I can (I recently have discovered Japanese anime and culture as well as South Korean culture and I want to learn as much as I can). Now in 2011, I should be graduating with a Bachelor's degree but I'm stuck with a basic A.A. degree because I can't decide what I want to do. The more I think about it, I wonder is the medical field really for me? Don't get me wrong.....the career and subject is appealing and interesting to me and it is a career that provides a nice salary, but I just don't know what to do. Another thing is I really like children and always thought it would be so neat to be an elementary school teacher but I never thought too much about it, because I would like a career that has a higher salary. I recently discovered that you can become an English teacher (some countries require you to have a Bachelor's Degree in English or Education) and teach English to children in different countries. I told my parents about it and my dad said that if I get my Nursing degree first he would have no objections with me teaching in foreign countries. The thing that worries me is, once I get my R.N. or B.S.N (which ever program I get accepted into first) I will start to work and not have the time to go back and get an English degree or even travel so that I can teach overseas. Even though I am only 21 (will be 22 in August) I'd always hoped I would be finished with school (at least the part of school where my parents would be happy with me) so that I could finally enjoy life and travel or do whatever! I have always had the thought that it would be so neat to study abroad but my dreams just seem so far away and I feel like nothing will ever be accomplished. I'm always thinking "wouldn't it be great to visit Japan, Bali, Italy, etc or do something exciting....but they're all thoughts that never get turned into actions. There's so much going on in my head that I just break into tears sometimes. All kids want their parents to be proud of them, but I feel like if I choose a random major that I would enjoy like (asian studies, psychology, elementary education) they would be disappointed in me. I mean they're paying for school, books, everything....the least I can do is make them proud of me by following what they want me to do. I have no motivation, I'm mentally & physically drained..literally I have no energy :( My sister is my best friend in the entire universe and she is going through an abusive marriage (both physically and mental) and it breaks my heart. My brother, who I am close with, also got married a few months ago so I live alone with my parents. I never go out, because I am not comfortable with my appearance. I only have a small handful of friends who I only get to see from time to time, so I get really lonely :( I get so upset & start eating away & now I'm overweight. When I was thin people told me all the time how I was so cute and had a great smile but I feel so unattractive. I've never had a boyfriend & i try not to let it bother me (it really doesn't) but of course at times I get super lonely. I w
Higher Education (University +) - 2 Answers
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1) You really should sit down and ask yourself. What are the things I love, and what are the dreams I have. From the sound of it your parents love you, and even though they might be disappointed if you don't choose a medical career, I'm sure they would rather see you happy and healthy than depressed and unhappy because you chose a major for their sakes rather than your own. 2) Don't listen to that counselor. If you want to be a nurse you can stay longer taking classes, working hard, to do whatever it takes to get into nursing school and graduate. Nursing, or any medical profession, is a great career. They are always needed, they pay well, and you really can go overseas very easily with that type of work. Don't be concerned about majoring in English or Education. Even if you get a different degree (like nursing or health) you can always get certified to teach later on. In order to teach overseas there are programs where all you need is a TEFL certification and a program that is hiring native English speakers with bachelors degrees. There are many people from various majors teaching English all over the world (particularly in China). You don't need to have the "right" major in order to do that post college or even later on. 3) Your life is not planned out for you. YOU are the one in control of it. You need to learn to love yourself and love your life for what it is. We all get lost sometimes but we pick ourselves back up and fight for what we want. You can do that. Don't shoot down your dreams before you even let yourself dream them. Nobody knows what they want to do when they're your age. Most of us don't even have it figured out the first few years out of college. Choosing your major is one tiny part of your journey in life. Pick one you want and don't worry too much about it. Keep looking forward so you can enjoy your life. No matter what happens, it's not your major that will determine what you do with your life and where you go- it is you who will determine those things. Good luck! I hope you feel the confidence you're looking for to move forward and find what you want.
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That advisor sounds like an A hole. I wouldn't let that one person shut down your dreams like that. I would keep doing what you want to do. Don't Feel pressured as to what your major is in. In the large scope of things all that matters is that you have A degree. Talk to a support group for your family/personal depression issues and deal with those before leaving the country. It takes a lot to be on your own that far away from home where you won't know anyone.
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I graduated from high school in 2007 & was set on being a Pharmacist. My grades weren't great & my advisor told me I have no chance of being a Pharmacist so I might as well change my major. I asked her if I should try and become P.A. (Physician's Assistant), Physical Therapist, etc (& basically every thing I told her.....she shot me down and said I basically have no chance of getting a degree in the medical field. At a young age I had my heart set on having a career in the medical field because I know its what my parents wanted. I come from a Indian family and my parents are quite understanding..but they always insinuated & kind of expected me to become a doctor, pharmacist, etc. Back then it didn't bother me, because I wanted to do whatever I could to make them proud of me. I have an older brother and sister who majored in Finance, Management & Marketing, and Business..& since my parents have worked in the medical field their entire lives I always felt like they expected me to follow in their footsteps and do more than they did since my brother and sister chose their own majors. The college advisor told me I have no chance getting a degree in the medical field I was so lost & confused and did not know what to do. I cried for weeks, because I was so scared of not knowing what I was going to do with my life, and on top of that I didn't want to disappoint my parents. The classes I had been taking were pre-requisites for Pharmacy so I changed my mind and decided to go towards Nursing instead despite what the advisor told me. Right now I've applied for two R.N. programs and am in the process of applying to some BSN programs. At this point I really am so frustrated and confused. My plan was always to graduate and get my degree and travel. I am so very much interested in other cultures which is why I want to travel everywhere I can (I recently have discovered Japanese anime and culture as well as South Korean culture and I want to learn as much as I can). Now in 2011, I should be graduating with a Bachelor's degree but I'm stuck with a basic A.A. degree because I can't decide what I want to do. The more I think about it, I wonder is the medical field really for me? Don't get me wrong.....the career and subject is appealing and interesting to me and it is a career that provides a nice salary, but I just don't know what to do. Another thing is I really like children and always thought it would be so neat to be an elementary school teacher but I never thought too much about it, because I would like a career that has a higher salary. I recently discovered that you can become an English teacher (some countries require you to have a Bachelor's Degree in English or Education) and teach English to children in different countries. I told my parents about it and my dad said that if I get my Nursing degree first he would have no objections with me teaching in foreign countries. The thing that worries me is, once I get my R.N. or B.S.N (which ever program I get accepted into first) I will start to work and not have the time to go back and get an English degree or even travel so that I can teach overseas. Even though I am only 21 (will be 22 in August) I'd always hoped I would be finished with school (at least the part of school where my parents would be happy with me) so that I could finally enjoy life and travel or do whatever! I have always had the thought that it would be so neat to study abroad but my dreams just seem so far away and I feel like nothing will ever be accomplished. I'm always thinking "wouldn't it be great to visit Japan, Bali, Italy, etc or do something exciting....but they're all thoughts that never get turned into actions. There's so much going on in my head that I just break into tears sometimes. All kids want their parents to be proud of them, but I feel like if I choose a random major that I would enjoy like (asian studies, psychology, elementary education) they would be disappointed in me. I mean they're paying for school, books, everything....the least I can do is make them proud of me by following what they want me to do. I have no motivation, I'm mentally & physically drained..literally I have no energy :( My sister is my best friend in the entire universe and she is going through an abusive marriage (both physically and mental) and it breaks my heart. My brother, who I am close with, also got married a few months ago so I live alone with my parents. I never go out, because I am not comfortable with my appearance. I only have a small handful of friends who I only get to see from time to time, so I get really lonely :( I get so upset & start eating away & now I'm overweight. When I was thin people told me all the time how I was so cute and had a great smile but I feel so unattractive. I've never had a boyfriend & i try not to let it bother me (it really doesn't) but of course at times I get super lonely. I w
Higher Education (University +) - 2 Answers
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1) You really should sit down and ask yourself. What are the things I love, and what are the dreams I have. From the sound of it your parents love you, and even though they might be disappointed if you don't choose a medical career, I'm sure they would rather see you happy and healthy than depressed and unhappy because you chose a major for their sakes rather than your own. 2) Don't listen to that counselor. If you want to be a nurse you can stay longer taking classes, working hard, to do whatever it takes to get into nursing school and graduate. Nursing, or any medical profession, is a great career. They are always needed, they pay well, and you really can go overseas very easily with that type of work. Don't be concerned about majoring in English or Education. Even if you get a different degree (like nursing or health) you can always get certified to teach later on. In order to teach overseas there are programs where all you need is a TEFL certification and a program that is hiring native English speakers with bachelors degrees. There are many people from various majors teaching English all over the world (particularly in China). You don't need to have the "right" major in order to do that post college or even later on. 3) Your life is not planned out for you. YOU are the one in control of it. You need to learn to love yourself and love your life for what it is. We all get lost sometimes but we pick ourselves back up and fight for what we want. You can do that. Don't shoot down your dreams before you even let yourself dream them. Nobody knows what they want to do when they're your age. Most of us don't even have it figured out the first few years out of college. Choosing your major is one tiny part of your journey in life. Pick one you want and don't worry too much about it. Keep looking forward so you can enjoy your life. No matter what happens, it's not your major that will determine what you do with your life and where you go- it is you who will determine those things. Good luck! I hope you feel the confidence you're looking for to move forward and find what you want.
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That advisor sounds like an A hole. I wouldn't let that one person shut down your dreams like that. I would keep doing what you want to do. Don't Feel pressured as to what your major is in. In the large scope of things all that matters is that you have A degree. Talk to a support group for your family/personal depression issues and deal with those before leaving the country. It takes a lot to be on your own that far away from home where you won't know anyone.
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Saturday, March 1, 2008
Is it better to be an MBA or a Nurse Practitioner Would I be unemployed with an MBA
Is it better to be an MBA or a Nurse Practitioner? Would I be unemployed with an MBA?
I am in such an odd situation. I came here in the US from Italy to get a degree in International Business (Spanish, and I speak Italian) and then aim for an MBA. I love real estate, I have a real estate license in Italy and I also have a real estate website that I manage as my hobby (OutRent.com) Now that I am a sophomore, a friend from Chicago told me I should aim on getting a degree in Nursing and then become a Nurse Practitioner because they are highly demanded and their starting income may be much higher than an MBA's. On the other hand, when I told that to my father he said I don't have the guts to see blood and neither a needle, and therefore he would not even pay for my education in Nursing and he would rather see me working as a farmer rather than dealing with other people's blood. On the other hand, he would pay all the tuition for Business school until I achieve my MBA. I also have to say that I am going to get an MBA at the University of Texas at Arlington, or maybe at UT-Austin. So what do you think it is best for me? Am I going to be unemployed after getting an MBA?
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go for the MBA.. you are going to be employed + start your own business professionally.. and you will save your money which mean you can invest it rather than paying university fees.. your dad is going to pay them :-) happy u.. i paid my MBA program fees
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American MBAs are still very in demand in Europe, and you should NOT do a nursing program if you can't stand blood! Your friend is giving you bad advice. However, most programs (MBA) require that you work for 2-5 years before applying to the MBA school. So you would have to work possibly back in Italy after your UG degree. Perhaps if you also major in international affairs (UTA has a great school), you could get a job in Italian and or Latin American banks for a few years. But don't forget a good MBA requires the work experience--not so much needed in Europe but that's why most American schools are considered better. You get more out of the program, and you contribute more when you've worked for awhile. A classmate of mine from Italy got offers at P&G Italia and at Barilla, and she chose Barilla in marketing.
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Get the MBA. You will make enough to live on. Then go for the Nursing degree. Nurses are in high demand and you will have something to fall back on (if when) the MBA doesn't work out.
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Maybe not unemployed but, finding a job right now is not an easy thing, even for an MBA. The excuse being that you will be too qualified. Nurses, however, are in very high demand and make excellent money. Jobs are always available and you can choose where you want to go most of the time.
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I wouldn't waste my time with the Arlington MBA but UT Austin isn't bad, especially if you plan to stay in Texas.
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I am in such an odd situation. I came here in the US from Italy to get a degree in International Business (Spanish, and I speak Italian) and then aim for an MBA. I love real estate, I have a real estate license in Italy and I also have a real estate website that I manage as my hobby (OutRent.com) Now that I am a sophomore, a friend from Chicago told me I should aim on getting a degree in Nursing and then become a Nurse Practitioner because they are highly demanded and their starting income may be much higher than an MBA's. On the other hand, when I told that to my father he said I don't have the guts to see blood and neither a needle, and therefore he would not even pay for my education in Nursing and he would rather see me working as a farmer rather than dealing with other people's blood. On the other hand, he would pay all the tuition for Business school until I achieve my MBA. I also have to say that I am going to get an MBA at the University of Texas at Arlington, or maybe at UT-Austin. So what do you think it is best for me? Am I going to be unemployed after getting an MBA?
Higher Education (University +) - 5 Answers
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1 :
go for the MBA.. you are going to be employed + start your own business professionally.. and you will save your money which mean you can invest it rather than paying university fees.. your dad is going to pay them :-) happy u.. i paid my MBA program fees
2 :
American MBAs are still very in demand in Europe, and you should NOT do a nursing program if you can't stand blood! Your friend is giving you bad advice. However, most programs (MBA) require that you work for 2-5 years before applying to the MBA school. So you would have to work possibly back in Italy after your UG degree. Perhaps if you also major in international affairs (UTA has a great school), you could get a job in Italian and or Latin American banks for a few years. But don't forget a good MBA requires the work experience--not so much needed in Europe but that's why most American schools are considered better. You get more out of the program, and you contribute more when you've worked for awhile. A classmate of mine from Italy got offers at P&G Italia and at Barilla, and she chose Barilla in marketing.
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Get the MBA. You will make enough to live on. Then go for the Nursing degree. Nurses are in high demand and you will have something to fall back on (if when) the MBA doesn't work out.
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Maybe not unemployed but, finding a job right now is not an easy thing, even for an MBA. The excuse being that you will be too qualified. Nurses, however, are in very high demand and make excellent money. Jobs are always available and you can choose where you want to go most of the time.
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I wouldn't waste my time with the Arlington MBA but UT Austin isn't bad, especially if you plan to stay in Texas.
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