Speech For funeral.....?
Hi, My grandmother just died and I want to read this letter i just wrote to her at her funeral. thoughts? (sorry its long) Dear Grandma, I love you. They are three simple words but they are so powerful. You taught me that. I have never felt as loved as I did when I would visit you. I want you to know what and incredible person you are. You changed the lives of everyone around you. Your life was so powerful and meaningful and I wonder if you know that. You will forever live on in my heart and our family’s hearts. Without you I could not be the same person I am today. The kisses you blew me every time we would say see you soon, the wet smooch you would give me on my cheek when I would walk in the door, and how you would grab my hand and get so excited just when you saw my face. They were all such little things, yet they taught me the power of love and family. You showed me how a family could love one another and how a family should be. I can’t thank you enough for being my grandmother. I don’t know how you did it. You faced some incredible challenges that I cannot imagine facing. You worked your hardest to make sure your kids and grandkids would not have to face those challenges. Thank you. Every time I would see you, you would have a story. Sometimes they were the same ones and others were new, or you would take and old story and jazz it up to make it a lot more interesting. There was the story of the time 2 handsome doctors carried you over the bridge in Italy. Or the time you were walking down the streets of Boston with a friend and saw two French sailors. Your friend told you to speak to them in French so you said “Bonjour Sir Capitain!†and as you would say, “and after that we couldn’t get rid’ of ‘em the whole day.†One time you told me that when in Italy you snuck into a museum with your sister, and for reasons I don’t remember were chased all over the city by a security guard and you had to hide in your hotel room for days. I think that was one of your embellished stories. Either way it made me laugh. I am so proud to have you as my grandmother. I truly can’t tell you that enough. I know you’re not gone, your spirit is still alive and well I promise, and I see a little more of you each day in the little things I or my aunts or cousins say and do, from the tissues I keep in my pockets and purse at hand at all times or the cookies and chocolates I keep stashed away in my room. I want to promise that I will not give up on my art work, I promise that I will always think of you if I go to France or travel anywhere for that matter and take lots of pictures , and I promise I will play a tune on the piano for you every now and then. I will make sure that Caitlin looks beautiful at her wedding. And I promise that we will all dance the night away, because I know how you always loved a good party and some good food. I want you to know how loved you are, from all your family, friends, my friends, family friends, nursing home staff, doctors, everybody you spoke to! We love you so much. I miss you grandma I really do. But I love you even more. You helped me face so many challenges without ever knowing it. When I would come visit you whatever I had been thinking or worrying about that day had disappeared, whether it was friends or school work, all that mattered was family and how lucky I was to have you and sit there and hold your hand. I want you to know that every once and a while when I would do bad on a test or get impatient with a friend I would think how you and grandpa would always tell me just how much you love me, and then I would be alright. Thank you. I conquered some of my biggest fears thanks to you. During one of my last visits to see you, I had said something to you and you just looked at my mom and said “Sweet Anna†with such a loving look on your face, which meant more than you will ever know to me. You are the most incredible person I have ever met in my life, and I was lucky enough for you to be my grandma. I know you wouldn’t want us to be sad. You would want us to have fun and maybe have a cookie. Whenever I see a pretty cloud, a tree blowing in the wind, a sunset, a day at the beach, mountains, flowers, anything beautiful, I’ll always here you in my head saying “I wish I could paint that.†You are a beautiful person grandma, the most beautiful person I have ever met inside and out. Your life was beautiful, and you raised a beautiful family that I am blessed to call my own. Thank you grandma, I can never say it enough. I love you, and as always I’ll see you soon. Love, Little Anna.
Other - Family & Relationships - 2 Answers
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OMG I CRIED JUST READING THAT! I WOULD OF LOOVE TO USE THAT (IF THE FUNERAL WAS IN THE FUTURE!
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First and foremost, i am so sorry for your loss-my thoughts are with you. Secondly, this is a beautiful, moving letter. It is ultimately up to you as far as whether you want to read this at the funeral or not. If i were you, i would instead perform some sort of eulogy-it would be more appropriate. The reason for this is due to that tradition at a funeral. Instead of directly addressing her in the way you'd like to, it's best to address her generally, in front of everyone who attends the funeral. Talk about her, her life, how she affected everybody around her, talk about anything and everything you want to. This letter that you wrote, i think is something that you should more so hold onto, cherish, and keep to yourself. Perhaps place it somewhere to hold onto and keep for the rest of your life. If you choose to create a vigil in your room or house, you can even keep the letter in or on the vigil. The main reason why i would discourage you reading this letter is really only because it is a personal thing that was meant to be read by her and written and read by yourself. If you'd like, you can reword some of this in a way that generally addresses her to the people who listen to you; what she did for you, your family, but word it in a way like "my grandmother did" or "my grandmother affected" instead of saying "you," use third person terms (she, her, and "my grandmother did" "my grandmother affected" etc). This is just my opinion. It is absolutely up to you though as to what you want to do. If you feel that you really want to read this letter, absolutely do it. Again, my deepest condolences to you and your family.
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Thursday, January 28, 2010
Thursday, January 14, 2010
I promise you it's really not interesting; but im out of ideas
I promise you it's really not interesting; but im out of ideas...?
---Like the title mentions, this is not the most intriguing thing, but it is a personal situation circumstance that has me out of solutions: read at your own interest. --I am 25 years old, I work in a hospital 40hrs a week, I am halfway complete with my nursing (bachelors) schooling. While I have an associates in electronic engineering, this does me little good with my regional hiring situation. --------Luckily, I live with my folks and am rent free; unfortunately that living situation is coming to a screeching halt. While I will leave out DRAMA (to save space; and keep your interest?), (for those still interested, read-on) my folks relationship is not looking to good, thus I do not believe this house is gonna be remained occupied for to much longer, by anyone. --Here is the part im stuck at. I have, lets say, $3600 in the bank; I will receive a tuition refund check from my employer since im studying nursing, roughly a $3000 check in 2.5months. ----------Forgot to add, I do not believe either parent is gonna do to well on their own since they were born in Italy. Their english is not great, but they are able to get around and resolve most things on own.---------- Also: Luckily my position at work allows me 3hrs a night to study; since I work the 11p-7a shift, it gets pretty quite around 1-4am. The bad part is its only $9 an hour. I start clinicals in December of 09, which is EXTREMELY demanding, for this reason I am unable to take a higher paying position given my current allows at me at least 3hrs a night to study. Thanks to those who read it, have any ideas/solutions that allows me to continue with my studies and not be distracted with the "at home drama"? Housing seems to be the issue. If your wondering to yourself, why is this asked in psychology? ---It's because this is the only section that I can come up with where people think before responding. P.s. You can imagine what this is doing to me in terms of mental health and maintaining a clear focused train of thought.
Psychology - 2 Answers
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Interesting. Let me think this over for a bit.
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Have you thought about possibly living on your schools campus? where do you live (city/state) im in pittsburgh and you can get a studio apt here for like 400 a month which would come out to about 3600 a year which is your savings and you could live off of your 9 bucks an hour. have you thought about looking on craigs list for roommates? some are crazy but it sounds like you just need a place to rest your head not somewhere to live just yet so it might work out.
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---Like the title mentions, this is not the most intriguing thing, but it is a personal situation circumstance that has me out of solutions: read at your own interest. --I am 25 years old, I work in a hospital 40hrs a week, I am halfway complete with my nursing (bachelors) schooling. While I have an associates in electronic engineering, this does me little good with my regional hiring situation. --------Luckily, I live with my folks and am rent free; unfortunately that living situation is coming to a screeching halt. While I will leave out DRAMA (to save space; and keep your interest?), (for those still interested, read-on) my folks relationship is not looking to good, thus I do not believe this house is gonna be remained occupied for to much longer, by anyone. --Here is the part im stuck at. I have, lets say, $3600 in the bank; I will receive a tuition refund check from my employer since im studying nursing, roughly a $3000 check in 2.5months. ----------Forgot to add, I do not believe either parent is gonna do to well on their own since they were born in Italy. Their english is not great, but they are able to get around and resolve most things on own.---------- Also: Luckily my position at work allows me 3hrs a night to study; since I work the 11p-7a shift, it gets pretty quite around 1-4am. The bad part is its only $9 an hour. I start clinicals in December of 09, which is EXTREMELY demanding, for this reason I am unable to take a higher paying position given my current allows at me at least 3hrs a night to study. Thanks to those who read it, have any ideas/solutions that allows me to continue with my studies and not be distracted with the "at home drama"? Housing seems to be the issue. If your wondering to yourself, why is this asked in psychology? ---It's because this is the only section that I can come up with where people think before responding. P.s. You can imagine what this is doing to me in terms of mental health and maintaining a clear focused train of thought.
Psychology - 2 Answers
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Interesting. Let me think this over for a bit.
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Have you thought about possibly living on your schools campus? where do you live (city/state) im in pittsburgh and you can get a studio apt here for like 400 a month which would come out to about 3600 a year which is your savings and you could live off of your 9 bucks an hour. have you thought about looking on craigs list for roommates? some are crazy but it sounds like you just need a place to rest your head not somewhere to live just yet so it might work out.
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Thursday, January 7, 2010
How funny is this joke
How funny is this joke?
A doctor was having an affair with his nurse. Shortly afterward, she told him that she was pregnant. Not wanting his wife to know, he gave the nurse a sum of money and asked her to go to Italy and have the baby there. "But how will I let you know the baby is born?" she asked. He replied, "Just send me a postcard and write "spaghetti" on the back. I'll take care of expenses." Not knowing what else to do, the nurse took the money and flew to Italy. Six months went by, and then one day the doctor's wife called him at the office and said, "Dear, you received a very strange postcard in the mail today from Europe, and I don't understand what it means." The doctor said, "Just wait until I get home and I will explain it to you." Later that evening the doctor came home, read the postcard, and fell to the floor with a heart attack. Paramedics rushed him to the hospital emergency room. The head medic stayed back to comfort the wife. He asked what trauma had precipitated the cardiac arrest. So the wife picked up the card and read: "Spaghetti, Spaghetti, Spaghetti, Spaghetti - Two with sausage and meatballs; two without." Sorry I killed the joke. I copied and pasted it and forgot the punchline...lol. I'm at work so I went to check the responses 20 minutes later and saw I had forgotten the last line.
Jokes & Riddles - 13 Answers
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You gonna post the rest?
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Funnier with the punchline: So the wife picked up the card and read: "Spaghetti, Spaghetti, Spaghetti, Spaghetti - Two with sausage and meatballs; two without."
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lmao funny!!!!
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gooood
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ill check back when its finished thank for the rest i got now we all make mistakes good joke
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yes, even though I don't fully understand it!
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LOL!!!
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Ha, ha!! Thanks!
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Yeah nice one...hahaha...bt i didnt understand it
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hey where's the rest???
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this joke is hilarious lol
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Fairly funny. I give it a 5.
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i dont get it
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A doctor was having an affair with his nurse. Shortly afterward, she told him that she was pregnant. Not wanting his wife to know, he gave the nurse a sum of money and asked her to go to Italy and have the baby there. "But how will I let you know the baby is born?" she asked. He replied, "Just send me a postcard and write "spaghetti" on the back. I'll take care of expenses." Not knowing what else to do, the nurse took the money and flew to Italy. Six months went by, and then one day the doctor's wife called him at the office and said, "Dear, you received a very strange postcard in the mail today from Europe, and I don't understand what it means." The doctor said, "Just wait until I get home and I will explain it to you." Later that evening the doctor came home, read the postcard, and fell to the floor with a heart attack. Paramedics rushed him to the hospital emergency room. The head medic stayed back to comfort the wife. He asked what trauma had precipitated the cardiac arrest. So the wife picked up the card and read: "Spaghetti, Spaghetti, Spaghetti, Spaghetti - Two with sausage and meatballs; two without." Sorry I killed the joke. I copied and pasted it and forgot the punchline...lol. I'm at work so I went to check the responses 20 minutes later and saw I had forgotten the last line.
Jokes & Riddles - 13 Answers
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You gonna post the rest?
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Funnier with the punchline: So the wife picked up the card and read: "Spaghetti, Spaghetti, Spaghetti, Spaghetti - Two with sausage and meatballs; two without."
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lmao funny!!!!
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gooood
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ill check back when its finished thank for the rest i got now we all make mistakes good joke
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yes, even though I don't fully understand it!
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LOL!!!
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Ha, ha!! Thanks!
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Yeah nice one...hahaha...bt i didnt understand it
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hey where's the rest???
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this joke is hilarious lol
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Fairly funny. I give it a 5.
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i dont get it
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Friday, January 1, 2010
my sister having power of attorney
my sister having power of attorney?
I found out about 2 weeks ago that my sister put my mom in a nursing home without telling me or my dad of this. She has mom's Power of Attorney. I phoned her to ask for mom's phone number at the nursing home , she said she would email it to me, but never did. I searched in internet and found the home my mom is in, but when I asked to talk to my mom they said to me "Im sorry maam but first we have to talk to your mom's Power of Attorney and then we will let you know if you can talk to her or not. This is very frustrating for me as I live in Italy and my mom, dad, and sister live in Canada. What are my rights? Weren't they supposed to advise me about my sister having become my mom's Power of Attorney? My sister also said that I was never welcomed there anymore and that I had abbandoned my family, which is not true, at the time I married and moved to Italy my mom and dad where very young and healthy and in no need of help. Please someone give me some answers because I dont know what to do anymore. A very complicated situation. Thank you in advance. I have always been present even if I am living in Italy. I have always been in contact with my family in Canada. This doesn't give my sister the power to do what she wants without telling me anything. I am not questioning what she did, I am only questioning that she should have advised me about it. So before calling me a miserable absent child i would suggest you know the whole story behind all of this, then we will see who you will be calling a miserable absent child. Measure your words before writing them down. Thank you . Thank you James
Law & Ethics - 3 Answers
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If she has power of attorney, she doesn't need to inform you of anything and has complete control of your mother. Every decision she makes, it's legally the same as if your mother herself made it.
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You miserable absent child. You did not take the time to be more involved with your mom and NOW you want to participate. Shame on you.
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The only way you could contest the POA is if your mother was not mentally sound when she signed the document, or your sister is abusing her powers as the POA. Nobody is required to tell you that your mother is about to sign a POA or already has. The nursing home may have not told your sister that you called and want to be allowed phone contact. Nursing homes are understaffed with caring for people physically present and would rather not spend time conveying messages for family members who aren't speaking. When you first moved, your mother may have been fine, but at some point, she declined and needed more and more care, which your sister provided while you were not around to notice. She resents you for this. Once your mother dies, the two of you will probably never reconcile this issue, so now would be the time to try. Keep emailing your sister. Keep calling the nursing home. You'll get to know the staff and they will recognize you as an interested party, eventually sharing info with you. Just don't use this info to lord over your sister, or the nursing home will shut down communications with you because it's more trouble than it's worth. Here's a way to get through to your mother: send lots of cards, all containing your name, address, phone number, and picture. Eventually, one will get through, giving your mother a means by which to contact you. She's bound to hold on to several of them. Things get all over the nursing home, so even if your sister finds some of the cards and takes them, chances are that the rest were taken by a confused resident and put in a plant, under the t.v., etc. Also send her flowers. They will deliver the flowers directly to your mother, who will naturally want to know who sent them- the staff won't think to withhold the tiny little card sticking out from the bouquet. You could also fly in and visit your mother.
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I found out about 2 weeks ago that my sister put my mom in a nursing home without telling me or my dad of this. She has mom's Power of Attorney. I phoned her to ask for mom's phone number at the nursing home , she said she would email it to me, but never did. I searched in internet and found the home my mom is in, but when I asked to talk to my mom they said to me "Im sorry maam but first we have to talk to your mom's Power of Attorney and then we will let you know if you can talk to her or not. This is very frustrating for me as I live in Italy and my mom, dad, and sister live in Canada. What are my rights? Weren't they supposed to advise me about my sister having become my mom's Power of Attorney? My sister also said that I was never welcomed there anymore and that I had abbandoned my family, which is not true, at the time I married and moved to Italy my mom and dad where very young and healthy and in no need of help. Please someone give me some answers because I dont know what to do anymore. A very complicated situation. Thank you in advance. I have always been present even if I am living in Italy. I have always been in contact with my family in Canada. This doesn't give my sister the power to do what she wants without telling me anything. I am not questioning what she did, I am only questioning that she should have advised me about it. So before calling me a miserable absent child i would suggest you know the whole story behind all of this, then we will see who you will be calling a miserable absent child. Measure your words before writing them down. Thank you . Thank you James
Law & Ethics - 3 Answers
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If she has power of attorney, she doesn't need to inform you of anything and has complete control of your mother. Every decision she makes, it's legally the same as if your mother herself made it.
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You miserable absent child. You did not take the time to be more involved with your mom and NOW you want to participate. Shame on you.
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The only way you could contest the POA is if your mother was not mentally sound when she signed the document, or your sister is abusing her powers as the POA. Nobody is required to tell you that your mother is about to sign a POA or already has. The nursing home may have not told your sister that you called and want to be allowed phone contact. Nursing homes are understaffed with caring for people physically present and would rather not spend time conveying messages for family members who aren't speaking. When you first moved, your mother may have been fine, but at some point, she declined and needed more and more care, which your sister provided while you were not around to notice. She resents you for this. Once your mother dies, the two of you will probably never reconcile this issue, so now would be the time to try. Keep emailing your sister. Keep calling the nursing home. You'll get to know the staff and they will recognize you as an interested party, eventually sharing info with you. Just don't use this info to lord over your sister, or the nursing home will shut down communications with you because it's more trouble than it's worth. Here's a way to get through to your mother: send lots of cards, all containing your name, address, phone number, and picture. Eventually, one will get through, giving your mother a means by which to contact you. She's bound to hold on to several of them. Things get all over the nursing home, so even if your sister finds some of the cards and takes them, chances are that the rest were taken by a confused resident and put in a plant, under the t.v., etc. Also send her flowers. They will deliver the flowers directly to your mother, who will naturally want to know who sent them- the staff won't think to withhold the tiny little card sticking out from the bouquet. You could also fly in and visit your mother.
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